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Mourning

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted on May 19th, 2008 by naechstehaltestelle

When I was really young, I remember being told that being Chinese was something special. It not only reflects in your face but in every part of who you are. Being young, I didn’t care. I wanted to be like all the other kids – white, rich, blonde, whatever. I just didn’t want to be Chinese because I was ashamed. I was made to feel like my black hair and small eyes were something undesirable and lowly.

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Stop Your Sobbing

Posted in Blogging, Slack Off on February 24th, 2008 by Foilwoman

As an actively practising heterosexual woman (I date), I read what women and men have to say about dating.  Craig’s List’s Rants and Raves section is either highly entertaining or deeply depressing, depending on your perspective.  So are the personal listings sections.  I read M4W and W4M, not the gay, miscellaneous, or casual sections, mainly because that’s what interests me.  I may be missing more sane stuff on the M4M and W4W sections, but since they aren’t interested in me that way and vice-versa, it’s just not that entertaining.

 But I’ll say this now:  those of you who are straight (or bisexual, but currently seeking a straight relationship) in DC using the Internet (as exemplified by Craig’s List, but not limited thereto), listen to the great Chrissie Hynde (and she dedicated a performance of this to Ray Davies when she dumped him:  Stop Your Sobbing.*

 Why?  Because singles in DC are a bunch of whiners.  What do I mean?  The universal complaint is “Why is it so hard to meet people?”  This question presumes that the questioner is entitled to easy-to-enter relationships.  Let’s look at that assumption.  Most people have some sense of self-protection when seeking relationships with other people.  If we assume that the people we meet have similar self-protective needs to our own, unless our own level of self-protection is abysmally low**

 Here are some examples of whiners and some examples of whiners to be (I think these men and women will have future posts saying:  “Why didn’t any nice man/woman respond!  Why is everyone so shallow?”  Oh, I don’t know.  Why do you think?

 “Nice gentleman . . . . PLEASE! ONLY RESPOND WITH RECENT PHOTO/S AND INFO or no response from me. Looking for a great single lady. . . .”  But apparently not one with any need for privacy.  Yes, all women are thrilled to send their pictures to whoever on the Internet.  Yes, he posted his picture for all of us to see.  That just shows that he doesn’t have much sense of privacy.  I just hope when the women with pictures ask him to visit their websites, he doesn’t get all bent out of shape.

And doesn’t this one just grab you?  “This is hard dude.
I am almost giving up to this.. just hit me any other resigned one so we will feel some companionship hahah..
”   Dude, I’m sure you’re going to get tons of emails from resigned women who feel they have so much in common with you.  Like what?

 Another person about to give up here: “I feel like giving up because of the responses I’ve received in my previous postings. I really wonder if there could possibly be a Gentleman out there that can read this ad, understand it, and respond appropriately?”  Look, if they can’t read and respond they way that you’d like, it isn’t a conspiracy, and you don’t need to give up.  That’s the damn search process.  You’re supposedly in your fifties.  Just delete the inappropriate responses and move on.  Whining about it just makes you sound, well, whiny.

Bored – Need Help! – 40 makes you wonder.  Why would anyone respond to all the people who say they’re bored?  Read a darn book.  We’re not here to give your life interest.  If you bore yourself, what will you do to us?  It’s hard enough to get away from that boring guy at the party.  No need to approach him on the Internet.  The other thing that totally fails to impress is the whole looking for a date for Saturday night at, uh, 7:39 on Saturday night.  Your interesting date is already out doing something interesting, bored man.  Also, you don’t need a date to go to a movie (although Juno is a good pick).  Movies are pretty darn solitary.

Actually, a search for “bored” on the M4W list came up with 85 hits, over 18 (too boring to count, yes, that’s ironic) with “bored” in the headline.  On the W4M list it came up with 16 hits, 4 with the word “bored” in the headline.  Is boredom really something that draws people to you?  I never knew that.  Why not say “irritable” or “syphlitic”?  I’d imagine that would work as well.

And here is someone who isn’t in business, no sirree: “Hi,
I am an attractive young blonde, with blue eyes that would like to go out for a drink but I am flat broke. I am looking for a nice guy who would like to meet me for drinks(on you) and help me with my financial situation (a donation). I am in Fairfax and would like to meet around here or nearby Fairfax. Please be the night in shining armor that will help undepress me because I am severely down and out.
Thanks
!”  And someone needs to tell here it’s already night.  What she’s looking for is a knight.  Or more honestly, a john.  I think vice squad action is ludicrous, but please.  Just say:  “Let’s make a deal.  Your money for my acquiesence.”

 Now, I hope all of these people find what they want, safely and satisfactorily.  Someone who will unbore them.  Someone who will pay them.  Someone who will give them exactly what they want.  But everybody:  making connections is not easy.  People don’t want to meet uninteresting people.  People don’t want to reveal too much until they know you.  So stop acting as though you have some entitlement to meet the perfect person and anything other than perfection and ease in reaching that perfection is an affront.  Your boredom, loneliness, neediness, anxiety, anger, and defensiveness aren’t going to draw people to you.  Put some effort into evolving a vertebral structure and the ability to do the things you want whether or not you have someone accompanying you.  Go to see Juno alone, you know?  Whenever someone you like connects, appreciate it, and know, you’re just starting to get to know him or her.

 Take either a Buddhist or Stoic approach.  The good is hard to find, can’t be chased, and is impermanent.  Appreciate it when you have it, but know the constants in this life are pain and suffering.  Dating, like everything else in life, is no guarantee of anything coming your way.

*Rather mean of her, since he wrote the damn song, but hey, Chrissie Hynde can kick anyone’s ass and they should probably just say “Thank you” to her, just for making Brass in Pocket the song it is and was. 

 **”Oh, stranger I just met in a bar/at the library/over the Internet, sure you can have my work, cell, and home phone numbers.  Here’s my address as well.  Here’s where I work.  Call any time.  And here are pictures of me in revealing or no clothes.  I can tell I can trust you.  You told me I could.”  If that doesn’t sound realistic to you, then why would making a connection be easy?

Photography Contest: The Winner

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted on December 10th, 2007 by naechstehaltestelle

I am pleased to announce that the winner of our First Annual DCBlogs Photography Contest is…

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Photography Contest: Vote Now!

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted on December 4th, 2007 by naechstehaltestelle

Thanks to everyone for entering in the DCBlogs Photography Contest. We’ve had a lot of beautiful entries from some very talented bloggers. It will be really tough to pick a winner, which is why I’ll let the DC blogging community vote for their favorite photo. Please leave a comment with the number of your favorite entry, and we’ll announce the winner at the beginning of next week.

Also, a big hearty thanks to the cool people at Threadless for offering a prize for the contest. And for reprinting the Cowboys and Indians shirt.

Click below to see the entries…

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DCBlogs Photography Contest Update

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted on November 29th, 2007 by naechstehaltestelle

The wonderful people at Threadless are offering a $40 gift certificate as a prize, more than enough for 2 shirts!  Contest ends soon, so please either e-mail us with your entries, or post the link in the comments section.  Thanks to all the participants so far for their wonderful entries.

DMV putting SmarTrip chips in DC driver’s licenses: A convenience or a privacy violation?

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted, Political on November 6th, 2007 by Boztopia

Today’s Examiner has a brief story about the DC DMV’s new initiative to embed SmarTrip chips in D.C. driver’s licenses, starting in 2008. As someone who’s written about privacy invasions and identity theft extensively, this scares the living crap out of me. If you lose one of these new licenses, someone can not only steal your identity, but can use your license to move through the Metro system.

“But you can track them and get your license back,” you say? Right–but that means they can also track you as well. SmarTrip cards are powered by radio-frequency identifier (RFID) microchips, a controversial technology that has many privacy advocates worried about a potential future where our movements can be tracked from stem to stern. Any data encoded about you on the chip that can be read by an RFID reader is fair game. A pilot program in a United Kingdom school has set up students’ uniforms to include RFID chips in order to track their movements, for example. Creepy, to say the least. Read the rest of this entry »

The Reality of It All

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted on October 24th, 2007 by The Chronicles of Tewkesbury

I don’t watch a lot of t.v. When I do , I don’t watch a lot of reality shows. In fact, the only one I watch with any regularity is The Biggest Loser on NBC. American Idol, Survivor, Big Brother–can’t stomach any of those.

Lately, though, I’ve started watching snippets of Dancing with the Stars. This season especially so because Marie Osmond is one of the stars.

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Regal Gallery Place Management Cracks Down on Annoying Patrons

Posted in Blogging on October 21st, 2007 by DCMovieGirl

For anyone familiar with movie theaters in our area, certain annoyances are to be expected.

There are the chair-kickers, the play-by-play reciters, the dayglo cellphone blinders, and last but not least, the inappropriate baby-bringers.

Last night, I attended a late showing of 30 Days of Night, fully prepared to put the smackdown on nearby annoying patrons.

I sat in the back-row to avoid the chair-kickers and prayed that no play-by-play needers nor givers would sit near me.

A few minutes into the preview for yet another Martin Lawrence vehicle (who are this man’s fans, anyway??) a manager walked in and did the unbelievable…

He went row-by-row and warned the large groups of young people not to get rowdy during the film. Later, a female manager did the same, ominiously saying to our row in particular, if folks start making noise,”…Let me know“.

That’s a good first step to making it seem like one may not be flushing $9.50 down the toilet by risking a movie in a DC theater.

Good job, managers. It’s about time!

Next time, though, I’d suggest you wait until the previews are done and make a loud announcement at the front of the theater, to catch the late stragglers.

There were those who heard what happened from their friends and loudly challenged “I don’t give a *bleep!* what they said!”

Despite that, aside from a few blinding bits of dayglo and a few muted comments, this showing was surprisingly subdued.

…Of course, this also could have been because the movie sucked, but it’s a start people, it’s a start.

DC cabs to change from zones to meters

Posted in Blogging, DC Blogs Noted, Political on October 18th, 2007 by Boztopia

Those of you who have lists of things to complain about regarding our fair city won’t have the notorious zone system to kick around anymore–Mayor Adrian Fenty has ordered the DC Taxicab Commission to switch all cabs operating in the District to a metered system.

Naturally, the cabbies are threatening a strike, and none of this amounts to more than political posturing until the change actually takes effect, which could be months away, even beyond Fenty’s hoped-for spring deadline. But on its face, is this a good or bad move? Read the rest of this entry »